First of all – a huge apology for the website problems that some of you experienced earlier on today…you couldn’t get your blog fix and I feel awful!
As soon as I found out that there was a problem, I asked Mr WLB to get on the case. Unfortunately, neither he nor I are very ‘technical’…plugging the iPad in is about as far as it goes! Luckily, he knows ‘people’ and managed to get it sorted for me in the end – what a star he is! 😉
Another apology, as tonight’s post is going to be a quickie…I have not long got home and have my weird migraine disco-eyes again so can’t see the keys to type properly!
Today has mostly been filled with a bit of coaching, the gym, and spending the afternoon with my wonderful friend…who has said that I should dedicate tonight’s blog post to her…so here goes…:-)
My friend is rather special to me. We worked together a few years ago and lost contact for a while when I went through my phase of hiding away from people. I just did not want anyone to see how bad things had become for me. Yet I knew that this was crazy, as your friends love you regardless…so I made a call and explained my situation and we reconnected. Explaining that I weighed over 43st was a difficult conversation to have, but it was important for me to be honest, and important for my friend to know that it wasn’t a trivial matter that had kept me from making contact. I actually found it a relief to get it off my chest!
Since that day, she has been an absolute star. She has supported me and has watched my confidence levels grow – to the point that she has to rein in my cockiness every now and again! 😉 She has allowed me to take things at my own pace, and not pushed me…but has let me know that when I am ready, she is there to take me out on the town!
My afternoon has been spent supporting her for a change. My lovely friend is a magnet for ‘stuff’…and this ‘stuff’ causes her to question herself…is she good enough, what has she done wrong, will life ever pan out as she hopes it will. So every now and again we have a mammoth chatting session in which she gets everything off her chest, and I try and help to steer those thoughts towards a resolution.
Needless to say, a lot of these conversations surround the opposite gender! My friend is gorgeous, outgoing, has a great job…and these things attract people who think that she can make their lives better in one way or another. Her life is pretty good and she is not desperate to enter into a relationship, but it would amazing for her to find that special someone…and she has met a fair amount of frogs…so I am sure that the prince is just around the corner.
So I listen, I ask questions, I offer bits of my take on situations…I listen some more, ask some more questions, and offer a bit more of my take…and then we do that all again. Sometimes, the process of talking about stuff helps to put it into perspective. In fact, I spoke to another wonderful lady yesterday about coaching and we said that you spend so much time helping other people that you rarely end up taking time to give yourself the same support.
This is what I try and do for my friend. She has a busy real life, a busy work life, a busy social media life…and rarely takes time out for herself…I try and provide that sanctuary for her – and I try and help her to put things into perspective. I am never sure what help I have been though. She did tell me that she loves speaking to me, as I have a tendency to help encourage her to ‘get her shit together’ as she put it. I like to think that I just remind her how bloody fabulous she is – and she really is.
The problem is that we all doubt ourselves…are we good enough, will people like us, do we look okay, do we earn enough, are we in the right job, are we at the stage that we think we should be at our point in life? All of this is bollocks to a certain extent – YOU are good enough…but you just need to spend some time working on believing this…or making changes if you don’t believe it.
Anyway, I feel like I am rambling now – the disco eyes are in full swing and I think I need a lie down in a darkened room! 😉 The point that I am trying to make in a really long-winded and nonsensical way is that YOU are bloody good enough…but take time to talk about these kinds of issues with a good friend every now and again…it’s good for the soul!
Personally, I think my friend is marvellous and undersells herself immensely. I hope that I give her a boost when we chat as I have a huge amount of time for her – she has been instrumental in my weight loss journey and I cannot thank her enough…so ‘THANK YOU’ if you are reading! 🙂
Breakfast: Banana porridge (5 syns).Lunch: Smoked salmon rice salad.Dinner: Burgers with sweet potato and salad (HEA, 2 x HEB and 2 syns).Snacks: Mini Green & Blacks bars (7 syns).A good food day. My usual brekki before the gym, followed by lunch which was eaten whilst chatting to my friend…she has a cream carpet and I am a clumsy bugger so I was desperately hoping not to litter her carpet with my lunch! 😉 It was just a packet of the Batchelors rice, some chopped up veggies, and a packet of the salmon trimmings. Dinner was grabbed quite late – my lovely Asda meatfree burgers, with a sweet potato and salad – and the chocolate bars will be eaten shortly.
Exercise: 5 minutes treadmill, 55 minutes weights, 30 minutes elliptical.
Thank you for reading,
Weight Loss Bitch xxx