Goodness me, Samantha Brick is at it again – and here I am, playing right into her attention-seeking hands and giving her frankly rather questionable views more air time than they deserve.
For those of you who are still unaware of Samantha Brick – where have you been?! – she is a British writer, producer and freelance journalist who often writes for the Daily Mail. Back in 2012 she published an article in on the Daily Mail website titled ‘There are downsides to looking this pretty: Why women hate me for being beautiful.’ In short, this article annoyed a serious number of people! The seeming arrogance with which it was written resulted in the article going viral on social media sites; Brick trended globally on Twitter, with the original article getting 1.5 million hits on the newspaper’s website and nearly 5,000 reader comments – the majority of which were negative.
The article opened with her gushing about the gifts she had received from men throughout her life, purely given to her because they perceived her as beautiful! She followed this up by stating, ‘While I’m no Elle Macpherson, I’m tall, slim, blonde and, so I’m often told, a good-looking woman. I know how lucky I am. But there are downsides to being pretty — the main one being that other women hate me for no other reason than my lovely looks.’ The number of jealous wives and female colleagues that have frozen her out of their lives were also mentioned, as was the jealousy of insecure bosses blocking her opportunity for promotion. Perhaps they just wanted rid of an eejit?!
Probably the funniest part for me was when she stated, ‘You’d think we women would applaud each other for taking pride in our appearances. I work at mine — I don’t drink or smoke, I work out, even when I don’t feel like it, and very rarely succumb to chocolate. Unfortunately women find nothing more annoying than someone else being the most attractive girl in a room.’ Annoying…or dull? She sounds about as much fun as my checks with the gynaecologist are!
Brick appeared on Channel 5’s Celebrity Big Brother after this article, and I was fully prepared to watch this vacuous lady regaling the other ‘celebs’ with tales of her privileged lifestyle. However, I have to say that I was both surprised and saddened. Surprised because she actually came across as a very sweet individual who seemed incredibly supportive of her female counterparts on the show. Surprised also because she often looked the least glamorous of all, and was certainly not the beauty she portrayed in her article – although her beauty seemed to shine from her sweet personality rather than her looks. I was however deeply saddened as I was expecting an incredibly strong and powerful lady – both in mind and persona…something which would back up the ‘sexy’! What I saw however was a lady who seemed incredibly insecure and subservient. She spent most of her time playing ‘Mum’ to everyone and ran around like a headless chicken to keep the place tidy and everyone well-fed.
This behaviour becomes clearer when you hear more about her husband; a Frenchman who is ten years her senior and likes his women to be beautiful apparently. I’ll come back to him in a moment!
Anyway, the uproar caused by Samantha was quite entertaining, with spoof pictures and Twitter accounts doing the rounds. ‘Stylist’ magazine responded with an editorial that said, ‘We believe Samantha Brick has had some unfortunate experiences with friends and colleagues, but this article is just another example of women attacking women – the very thing Samantha complains about.’ And this is the crux of things for me. I know that beautiful people don’t have it as easy as us mere mortals might think…but Samantha, try being a super-morbidly obese girl for a day…the treatment is far worse than anything you’ve ever had! Normal, everyday Joes get treated awfully too – it seems to be life, rather than the reserve of the beautiful.
And yes, she’s at it again – this time with an article citing how Joan Collins was correct in her assertion that any woman who wants to stay beautiful needs to diet for the rest of their lives. Hmm…controversial! Reading the article further, it seems clear to me that poor old Samantha has a rather warped view of the world. After describing her disgust at being given a box of chocolates from a friend – and telling us that they ended up in the bin, with coffee poured over to ruin them – she states, ‘I am 42 years old and have been on a permanent diet for the past 30 years. The logic is simple and irrefutable: any self-respecting woman wants to be thin, and to be thin you need to spend your life on a diet. I don’t believe overweight is ever attractive. Whether we like it or not, we live in an age and a part of the world where men and women regard thin as beautiful.’
Of course I have something to say about this! If you want to be thin, then be thin. If you want to be fat, then be fat. But do it for yourself, rather than for those around you, and don’t bloody ram your views down the neck of others. Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder, and to say that men regard thin as beautiful – and therefore intimating that they do not find anything other than this beautiful – is a sweeping generalisation that seems to take rights away from men! A lot of men appreciate a little bit of cushin’ for the pushin’ as one chap so delicately told me…yet other men don’t. And really, who cares? What I care about is health – obesity is not healthy, neither is a body at the opposite end of the scale. So as I said, if you want to be fat, then be fat etc…but don’t espouse a belief that one is better than the other when is comes to social acceptability.
Yet it gets worse as she says, ‘I believe that any woman with a modicum of self-respect should watch her figure with the same vigour. (As Joan Collins reportedly does).’ And there’s more, as she states, ‘For three decades, self-denial has been my best friend. And one of my biggest incentives is that I know men prefer slim women. I have only ever dated men who kept a strict eye on my figure. My partners are not only boyfriends but weight-loss coaches. My first love continually reminded me that one can never be too rich or too thin, and my husband of five years frequently tells me that if I put on weight he will divorce me.’ Charming – I could think of nothing worse than being in a relationship where my waistline was more important than the whole of me – mind and body. Ironically, the picture accompanying this last statement was of her rather lifeless and soulless being, standing next to her obese husband!
Whilst I am on that topic, let’s move on to her husband, Pascal, who apparently weighs Brick regularly! Pascal likes to ‘keep’ his woman safe and likes Samantha to tend to his needs – this includes buying and preparing five-course meals – which she obviously would struggle to indulge in given her diet battle – and massaging his head with lavender oil. Pascal, a gun-wielding carpenter from France, sent out a warning to anyone stupid enough to try their luck with the breathtakingly beautiful Brick. He has said, ‘Yes, I can be jealous. If someone in the street will whistle or make a gesture I will break his legs. C’est ma femme. If I have to intervene violently, I will intervene.” This charming proclamation of his love was published in the wonderful Daily Mail…ever the preservers of traditional virtues.
I do not think that there is anything wrong in treating your partner with love and kindness…and a nice head message with lavender oil is a good thing…but where is the respect in this relationship? I am sure that there must be some, as surely no lady of Samantha’s incredible beauty would put up with anything less?! In fact, if you read the articles (links are at the bottom of this post) you may well agree with me in surmising that Samantha seems like an incredibly subservient lady with psychological issues resulting in her promotion of a misguided view of the world. Yet I don’t feel too sorry for her; I think that she is also very clever lady. She writes controversial articles in order to raise hell and generally gets the response and coverage she is seeking. So who is more stupid – Samantha, with her idyllic sounding life in France, or me for sitting and writing about her?!
Anyway, I just wanted to reassure you all – not that you need it – you are loved for you, and are loved by many. You have no need to fit a certain ‘mould’ unless you want to. Stop trying to be something you aren’t and just be you – wonderful you! If you want to lose weight, then go for it. A healthy weight is exactly that – healthy. But it doesn’t equal happiness and won’t solve all of your problems, and if you want that then you need to just do what makes you happy.
Before I move on though, I did have a little chuckle at this Tweet last night…’@Halcruttenden: Samantha Brick’s back to remind us that, however stupid you feel, there’s someone more stupid writing for the Mail.’
Now that my little opinion has ended, let’s look at the usuals…
Today has been a rather quiet one – I managed to finish a book, and watch a couple of hours of lectures, and catch up on Twitter etc. Unfortunately, there was no room for me in the car yet again this morning, so I am really missing the horses! My niece was being collected from nursery by my Mum, and she already had another car seat in…although I did get to watch a nice little video of my niece riding our Shetland. Well, I say riding, but she was mainly sitting on him whilst he ate – and then they had a little pootle around…the best part was seeing her give him a huge kiss and cuddle afterwards! I then started getting a bit maudlin, after watching another video of someone out on a hack, and I was just a bit upset by it. I know that I will be back in the saddle at some point, but this nice weather is perfect for riding and I just wish I hadn’t let myself get into this state. But I am just going to try and use those feelings to push me on, instead of letting them push me towards food – which obviously wouldn’t help!
Breakfast: Porridge with scan bran and almond milk (9.5 syns).
Another okay food day – nothing spectacularly creative, but it was all very tasty and keeps me interested in this healthy eating malarkey. The mushroom and tomato ‘pizzas’ were just topped with a bit of tomato purée (mushrooms only) some garlic, herbs and the HEA of cheese, and then grilled in the oven until cooked nicely. And the sardines on toast is fast becoming a favourite of mine…with chopped onion in…mmmm!
Exercise: None – an immensely lazy day today.
Looking after the kids took it out of me…and all parents will be rolling their eyes at this point, thinking, ‘welcome to my world!’…and yes, they are just kids, but it’s tiring. I would never have been able to cope this time last year, so it has shown me how much more I am capable of now, but it’s also shown me that I need to walk before I try and run and not try and go overboard!
Have a fantastic weekend, and thank you for reading my ramblings…one inane woman rambling about another! 😉
Weight Loss Bitch xxx