And I am not referring to those who play with themselves every now and again…there’s nothing wrong with a quick tinker here and there! 😉
What I am referring to are those wanky people that you may have befriended on Facebook, but who turn out to be tossers of the grade A variety.
I got so fed up last night with the narrow-minded and judgemental posts that some people put out there…I had to have a cull! One person had written something along the lines of, ‘Sitting here enjoying a glass of wine and have noticed the woman next to me has the most appalling dry, dirty, cracked heels (she had actually put ‘hills’) No, no, no – no wonder she is sitting alone!’
Seriously?! Is this worthy of a mention on Facebook? Is this something that people really want to read? All I could think was, ‘What a twat!’. If someone’s cracked ‘hills’ figure highly enough in your evening to comment about them then your life must either be pretty fecking perfect or lacking some serious excitement.
Leave the woman and her cracked ‘hills’ alone…she is out there trying to live her life and doesn’t need a prick like you pointing out what you feel are her flaws. Would you have said it to her face…no? Then shut up – just shut up!
Then there are those people who always post photos of their cars, or their houses, or their massive diamond rings, or posh handbags…irrelevant ‘things’ which have been posted to rub noses in ‘it’! Great, you have a nice car…but what have you actually ‘done’ with your life other than pass a credit check to get a car that doesn’t belong to you anyway? Or what have you actually ‘done’ with your life other than pour your heart and soul into a house that you can’t take with you when you die? What have you ‘done’ other than snare some poor chap who has no idea of what he is in for and will want to take that ring away pretty sharpish when he realises his fate?! As for the posh handbags…well, I have a couple of those myself so had best keep quiet! 😉
Argh – it drives me crazy!
Why are we so obsessed with ‘things’ and searching for ways of making ourselves feel better by putting other people down? Surely it would have been a far more pleasant evening if this lady had looked at the woman with the ‘hills’ and found something to compliment her about? What better feeling than giving someone a compliment? Instead, you have focused on the negative…which is a real shame – for you…as it says more about you than it does about cracked bits and pieces!
What you see on social media – in general – is the highlights of someone’s life…they don’t tend to show you the shit…I try and remember this! 🙂 It’s fine to celebrate your successes – and if your car really does make you happy, then go for it…but maybe balance it out with some of the other shite…let people know who you are, not what you have!
Toxic people. They don’t even have to do or say anything really horrendous…they just have to breathe! They are draining. They take your energy. Energy that could be spent doing something fun, or used to focus upon something that really matters to you. If they make comments like this about other people, what are they saying about you?
I got rid of a few last night. I got rid of one ‘friend’ a while ago who was just being a dick and not really being a friend at all. I am now of the opinion that if someone drains your energy then it’s not worth it. I would rather spend that energy on something useful…like working towards my goals.
There was also another issue with Facebook recently. It recommended a friend for me. This ‘friend’ happened to be the man I lost my virginity to. He is not a friend. He was a bit of a pest to be honest. I was young-ish and a bit infatuated and he lied to get me into bed…telling me that he was moving to Amsterdam. He then turned up at the club we met at a week later, told everyone he took my virginity…and continued to tell anyone that would listen for the next 18 months…so he must have enjoyed himself I guess! 😉 As for me…it was over fairly quickly, wasn’t very pleasant, and certainly wasn’t something I felt the need to brag about. He then decided to tell my boyfriend, whom I met some months after our damp-squib of an evening, to treat me well as I was the best girl he’d ever known.
He’s now a Buddhist, lives in Amsterdam, and is married to a Thai lady…the world works in mysterious ways. Needless to say, I didn’t ‘friend’ him! 🙂
So a bit of a mixed bag tonight. I just get frustrated. I am far from perfect – and in fact I am not even aiming for perfect as I doubt it exists…I just want to be the best version of me that I can be. I don’t like people digging at others and trying to make people feel inferior for not looking ‘right’, or owning a great car, or having a fabulous house. It’s fine to be proud…but nose-rubbing is not attractive.
Anyway, today has been great. I had a nice lazy morning with Mr WLB and lay in bed giggling this morning as I could hear my niece and nephew down the road in their garden screaming and having fun! We got up and went to see the horses, who appreciated the carrots and apples we had taken for them. Then we popped to the shops. I then had a visit from my Mum, as I am helping her complete a qualification in mentoring…so we spent a few hours on that. I then had a coaching session with a new client – she is full of energy and I am excited to be working with her! Then I headed to my sisters house to babysit whilst they head out to the cinema. I had a Skype call with Jessie Pavelka and the ladies from the day we all spent together…but it didn’t work out and has been rescheduled for next weekend. So I am going to relax and wait for my sister to come home! 🙂
Breakfast: Bananas and Ryvita with Philadelphia (HEA and HEB).
A nice Extra Easy day today as my sister had promised me a lamb roast in return for babysitting today! 🙂 Brekkie was a nice quick one before heading to see the horses. Lunch was lush – a nice cooked breakfast type affair. Smoked bacon, Linda Mc sausages, baked beans, eggs, and some superfree tomatoes, spinach, and mushrooms. Dinner was cooked by my sister – lamb, syn free roasties, broccoli, cauliflower, carrots, and gravy…which is where the syns were. And a Nakd bar for my evening snack.
Exercise: A rest day today…but might do a bit of Pilates later!
Thank you for reading,
Weight Loss Bitch xxx