For any sensitive readers, you might want to check back tomorrow as I am pretty annoyed today and would not want to offend you!
This is a subject that I have written about before…yet it keeps cropping up time and time again. It relates to taking responsibility. I am not going to reinvent the wheel – well, maybe a little! – as the same subjects crop up…
Right then – here I go. I absolutely love hearing from people who stumbled across my blog, or my Twitter, or my Facebook page – I really do like it! It is great to answer questions that people might have, and just to catch up with fellow ‘losers’. As I have said before, I think the use of social media is really helping to keep me on track and I think that mutual support is crucial – and if I can help anyone out, then I definitely will. I love this so much that I have set up my coaching practice to do this more formally.
So please do not misunderstand my rant as I do love hearing from you all…and also note that my ‘regulars’ are not being referred to at all…and definitely not my coaching clients – they are so driven to making positive changes! 🙂
What really pisses me off is when people decide to ask for help, when they have no intention of helping themselves or even giving my response some consideration and thought. I have not called my blog, ‘Weight Loss Bitch – the guide to dieting that will work for you!’. Nor have I ever claimed to have any medical background, a degree-level qualification in nutrition or dietetics, or claimed to be a Slimming World consultant. I have no desire that you choose to follow the way of eating that I do – my meals might be too big for some, too small for some, and not beige enough for others…!
I am not a weight loss guru; it is just that the way I have chosen to lose weight is working, for now. Throughout the course of my journey I will have to adapt and change many things. Things like reducing portions potentially, and exercising in a different way. My way of losing weight isn’t perfect – it is just right for me at this moment in time. I am well aware that there are things that I will need to change as I get closer to target…there will be things that I want to change, such as eating in a cleaner way than I do now.
Whilst I do not claim to be a ‘guru’ I am happy to answer questions, and will give my opinion. That opinion is a well-formed one – which is based upon years of my struggle with obesity, the experiences and discussions I have had with psychologists and eating disorder specialists and dieticians and nutritionists. It is based on courses I have taken, hundreds of books and articles I have read, the various methods I have used to lose weight, and the conversations I have had with people in a similar situation to mine – and yours.
I have spent hours and hours – years and years in fact – educating myself about the world of weight loss. I have had so many practice attempts too! So whilst I don’t have a degree in nutrition, I have a sensible and educated and, at times, compassionate head on my shoulders. I do not spout rubbish (although you might disagree!) and I don’t go searching for extra blog readers – if you like what I say then read it, if not then don’t – this blog is to record my journey…not to develop a cult!
So forgive me if I get a little peeved when people make contact with me, asking for help, and I reply with a well thought out response, which they rubbish – as has happened on many occasions. If you genuinely want help, then I am willing to point you in the right direction – which is usually a chat with your doctor, someone to help sort your head out, and a supportive group of people to help. Yes, I follow the Slimming World plan, but I am wise enough to know that it won’t work for everyone. I am also more than happy to lend a supportive ear!
I won’t detail the responses I get as it isn’t fair to do that. However, one today pushed me over the edge! So much so, that the lovely topic I had planned for tonight’s blog went out of the window!
If you want to lose weight then you absolutely must educate yourself. Take a free online course in nutrition – there are hundreds! – and you will realise that so many things you have been told about food are a load of bullshit…
Carbs are GOOD for you! Just not the sugary filled shite stuff that we automatically think people mean when they refer to carbs. Fruit and vegetables are full of carbs and you would not hear a doctor, or dietitian, or nutritionist tell you that fruit and vegetables must be avoided. They might tell you to watch the sugars in fruit though!
Fat is GOOD for you too. Just not in the enormous amounts we usually consume it in. Our bodies need fat to deal with fat-soluble vitamins. Fat does not make you fat, too much fecking food of any type will make you fat; it is just that, weight for weight, fat is higher in calories than carbs and protein – approximately 9kcals per gram vs the 4kcals per gram in protein and carbs. Eat less saturated fat, but enjoy unsaturated fat!
Fasting diets are not healthy. Yes, you will lose weight in the short-term, but you will also lose lean muscle and tissue. The loss of lean muscle causes a fall in your basal metabolic rate – the amount of calories your body needs on a daily basis. This means your body will need fewer calories than it did previously, making weight gain more likely once you stop dieting. Unless you can fast for the rest of your life and continually drop the calories you eat, don’t bother!
Eating late at night is no worse than eating at any other time of the day. It is not when you eat that is important, but your overall calorie intake in a 24 hour period. Evidence shows that those that skip meals tend to be fatter than those that don’t…I know if I miss breakfast I tend to snack on quick fix items. Structured eating, rather than the time you eat, is more important – a good breakfast, lunch and dinner stops snacking. After all, think of the shift workers you know that have managed to shift weight…one who works nights at my group has lost over 5st.
Quitting smoking makes you gain weight – as do those tablets your doctor prescribed. NO! Extra calories make you gain weight…so unless that tablet is a meal replacement one that is jam-packed with calories, then it is the food you eat that causes the weight gain. So many people blame weight gain on tablets – steroids in particular – yes, they may increase your appetite, but the chemist didn’t give you 21 bars of chocolate to go with your weeks supply of 3-a-day medication! If you have underlying medical issues – hormonal or metabolic – you can get these sorted…but first of all, you need to know in your heart of hearts that you are doing all that you can to follow the plan you have chosen to follow. And water retention from medication can be dealt with using another tablet, or drinking lots of water – as crazy as that sounds. As for ex-smokers, they tend to replace their ciggies with another comforter…high calorie foods…and this is what puts the weight on. There are no magic weight loss properties in ciggies – or I would have tried them by now!
And try telling me that fruit and veggies are empty calorie foods which just make you hungry! Goodness me…empty calorie foods are those that contain calories without containing things that will benefit you nutritionally – such as vitamins, minerals, fibre, phytochemicals etc. You could hardly accuse fruit and vegetables as falling under this category!
Right then – so the above points are things that I have learnt along the way. I have checked, double-checked, and triple-checked these points with the host of professionals I mentioned earlier. These are all facts. But don’t take my word for it – educate yourself.
If I was planning on running a marathon, I wouldn’t expect to get to the finish line without putting any training in. And if I was planning on losing weight, I wouldn’t expect to do it without putting any training in either. I consider education as training. You cannot expect to turn up to that marathon in a shiny new pair of trainers that you’ve never worn, just as you cannot expect to hit your weightloss goals holding a shiny new weight loss book that you haven’t bothered opening other than to record your weekly loss – which will most likely yoyo if you aren’t bothering to learn!
This may sound really arsey and awful of me, but I don’t care quite frankly. I put the effort in – I read, I learn, I cook good meals, I follow the directions given to me…and I am getting results, albeit have been having a bumpy ride recently! So I do get quite pissed off when people can’t be bothered to do the same, yet moan like hell when they don’t get results. You have work at it, and sometimes it is bloody hard, but you have to keep working at it – or you will just end up staying fat for the rest of your life.
So many people – and I have seen this in a number of groups – can’t even be bothered to read their Slimming World books. And if they can’t be bothered to do this, then I would bet my arse that they aren’t looking for additional info to help them. Oh, wait – that is unfair…these are the ones who love giving the new fad diet a go that they have read about in ‘Heat’ magazine…the publication which is renowned for it’s educational content! These are the ones who encourage me to ‘just have surgery – it’s easier’. These are the ones that constantly yoyo…making the same New Years resolution year in year out! Unfair? Perhaps! 😉
Before I finish, I only have a couple of bits left to get off my chest. One is that I have learnt not to give advice now unless it is asked for. I have seen people doing stuff like roasting chickpeas and eating them like nuts, thinking that it’s okay as it’s ‘free food’. I used to explain that Slimming World advise synning food like this as it is a big tweak and the ‘free food snack’ is still quite high in calories. But now I can’t be bothered as people don’t want to listen anyway. And, to be fair, if they can eat snacks like that and still lose weight, who am I to tell them any differently. So I won’t offer help unless it is asked for now.
Finally, if you don’t like the plan you are trying to follow, then you won’t lose weight. If you went to see a nutritionist and told them that you don’t like eating dried fruit, and the only snacks that they put in your eating plan were of the dried fruit variety, you wouldn’t follow it. So if you don’t like eating something, find an alternative. If you don’t like salad and need to have 1/3 superfree with lunch, make a superfree veggie soup instead and have a mug of it before you eat the rest of your lunch. If you don’t like fruit and yet can’t think what to have with breakfast, make an omelette and pack it with tomatoes, mushrooms and spinach instead. There is always a solution…don’t be too lazy to look for one…as you will throw in the towel!
Please do keep getting in touch with me though. I am so open to helping those who genuinely want help working out how to change their lifestyles, or those who think that they are doing everything right but aren’t getting the results. But if you are set in your ways and not ready to change…then I am perhaps not the best person…I don’t tolerate moaning very well if it doesn’t come with a real desire to do something about your situation. We all need a good vent (that’s what I’ve just been doing!) at times, and a good moan is healthy – and I am happy to listen to those…but I don’t do poor me stories…as I was a poor me person and realised that a negative attitude is so damaging. We all have issues and problems, many of which are carried from childhood so are deep-rooted, but focussing on these can be so damaging – deal with these issues, getting professional help if needed, and move on in a positive manner.
P.S. My biggest worry is that people who believe these diet myths will share them with others…and before long, non of us will be able to lose weight healthily. So just educate yourself – if something sounds too good to be true, then it probably is. And if something sounds like a cop-out, then it probably is!
Right then, for those of you that have stuck with me, I shall now cover off the usuals…and I thank you for tolerating my rant…I reckon I might have scared a few of you off, but please – I honestly don’t mind ‘chatting’ with you all!
It’s been a good day! I have had two great coaching sessions with two lovely people…I am excited to see the progress they make over the next few months. I then helped my nephew learn how to ride his bike…and had to do a deal that he would ride a lap of the garden on his bike and then I would push him around in his truck – so it was good exercise for me. I saw the horses, who are looking good and enjoying a warm autumn. I secured a lovely lady to horse-sit for me whilst I am on holiday which has given me peace of mind…but she pampers them more than I do, so I am hoping they don’t get used to 5-star luxury as they will have to get back to Premier Inn standards when I get back home! 😉 This evening, I am relaxing!
Today’s food looked like this…
Breakfast: Scrambled eggs with spinach and a banana.
Lunch: Pulled pork and cheese rolls (2 x HEA and 2 x HEB) with homemade coleslaw (2 syns), tomatoes, and roast butternut squash.
Dinner: Fruit, yogurt, and Nakd bars (10 syns).
Exercise: Nothing today!
Thank you for reading,
Weight Loss Bitch xxx
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