It’s a sad, sad situation – no, I am not about to break into song…more of a rant really! 😉
Today I watched a video that made me cry. I have shared it on my Facebook page, so you might have seen it already.
It was about a group of ladies. A group of beautiful ladies. I have no pre-conceived ideas about what constitutes ‘beautiful’ – some of the media-friendly beauties leave me a little cold with their behaviour quite frankly…and some of the less media-friendly ladies leave me in tears with the beauty of their hearts and souls. And no, I am not turning into a softie here either! 😉
Basically, this video was about ladies who stood in front of an interactive mirror. This mirror gave them certain messages. It was their response to these messages that left me in tears.
Maybe have a watch of the video before you read on, as I’d love to hear what you think.
Anyway, I then posted the link to Facebook and waited. The comments I expected were there – things like, ‘I’m not usually soppy but this is such a nice thoughtful idea, ‘Yep, had me in tears too! X’, ‘I’m crying!, ‘Hard as nails all the way through. Right up until they turned around. Damn you!!’, ‘In tears!’, ‘Lovely!!, and ‘Tears!!!’ Pretty much what I expected really. So I kept waiting…and then it arrived – the response that I was hoping to get.
This was a little social experiment of sorts. I wanted to see who got pissed off. I wanted someone to be as angry as I was that beautiful people had to get set-up and plonked in front of a mirror in order to realise their worth.
I think Claire says it quite nicely really – her response was, ‘I love your links WLB but I can’t agree on this one. I am getting really hacked off with all this emotional manipulation of women simply to sell stuff.
Dove, this girlband, whoever they are and frankly right now, tonnes of adverts saying: “hey ladies, ignore EVERY OTHER MESSAGE that society feeds you, that you see in the media every day, you’re weally speshul, now buy our stuff.”
I think it’s patronising (not you WLB, just this vid) and manipulative and making me angry. I understand why this moves people and I understand why people have found this upsetting (hello people above, please don’t be offended) – because we simply never see positive affirmation of women. I am angry that we are in a situation where this video can even exist.
We should be getting damned angry and fighting back against what makes women feel like this in the first place, not being grateful for the crumbs of affirmation that marketers feel fit to feed us, simply to sell us things.
WLB, I know you appreciate a bit of well placed rage, so hopefully you’re not offended by this and none of the other folk above are either. I’ve been moved by things like this before but this one has just moved me in totally the wrong way.’
I have to say that I wasn’t offended in the slightest. I agreed! I also have to say that I hadn’t even noticed that this video was being used to promote a girl band…as I didn’t watch it all…I cried as soon as I saw people breaking down when they were being told how amazing they were. Personally, I don’t have an issue with marketeers making some money for a company or product if that company or product is helping people feel better about themselves – okay, I have a bit of an issue with it…fecking sales targets and profits! I can’t see the world changing overnight though – marketeers and these companies will be around for a while – so if they can get the messages across that the wider media doesn’t…then it’s a start.
I liken this to a professor of obesity that I know of. He acts as an advisor to McDonalds. Which seemed ludicrous to me to begin with…why would someone who is trying to fight obesity want to work with McDonalds? If you can’t beat them, join them…his work has contributed to the massive reduction of fat and salt in their offerings, especially in the children’s meals. So I am, personally, okay with the likes of Dove et al using the warped views we have of ourselves…we need shower gel after all…and shower gel with a positive message is a bonus. You have to start somewhere. I would much prefer that the warped views were non-existent though.
I do have to point out that Dove are part of a group who sell skin-lightening creams in India…and Slim Fast…and Lynx – which produce pretty sexualised adverts at odds with the ‘Real Beauty’ adverts…I don’t like that! I wish I could be 100% behind a company and it’s ethics…but I don’t think I will ever find that. Companies have used platitudes to sell things for years. Beauty campaigns rely upon platitudes for sales. I am going off on a tangent…I will try and get back to the point…it seems that I have more of an issue with these companies than I thought! For the record, I don’t use Dove! 😉
Anyway, my biggest issue with this video is that ladies – and let’s not forget gents here please…gents have many, many issues too…it’s just that they don’t highlight them so much – need to be reassured about how fabulous they are. They cannot look in a mirror and see how amazing they are. It makes me sad.
Given that I have just Dove-bashed a little, it seems rude to use their stats – but I am not shy! The Dove Campaign for Real Beauty conducted a study in 2006 which showed that girls’ self-esteem peaks at nine years old. And that study is old. My niece is five and talks about all sorts of body issues with me…it’s scary! Apparently 7 in 10 girls believed they didn’t ‘measure up’ – in terms of relationships, looks, educational performance. 80% of ten year old girls have been on a diet…80%! For fucks sake…this is scary stuff. What’s even scarier is that these same young girls are more afraid of ‘fat’ than they are of cancer, their parents dying, or nuclear war. Seriously…the world is going mad!
So yes, I cried when I watched that video. I sat blubbering like an idiot. Mr WLB wondered what the hell I was watching. I was sobbing…saying, ‘It’s so sad that those lovely women need a bloody mirror to tell them how great they are…it’s shit!’…as he rolled his eyes at me! 😉
It is a really shit situation. I had a message from someone the other day. A beautiful young girl who was telling me how terrible she felt about herself. I did what I could to help, yet I felt so inadequate. Where the heck do you start when it comes to battling long-held body issues and beliefs? I wrote a letter to my body a while ago. It was an interesting exercise and one that I urge you to try. The only ‘must’ is that you keep it positive. Any time you feel that you want to say something horrible about yourself, you have to stop, breathe, and replace that view with a positive point.
You are so much more than your weight, or your height, or your nose, or your hair – this kind of stuff is irrelevant really. You are pretty bloody amazing. Take a minute or two to think about what your loved ones would say about you – why they appreciate you, what they love about you. You are fecking amazing! 🙂
Anyway, I will leave it there. It makes me angry that we are duped into needing stuff like this to tell us how fecking fabulous we are…we need to tell ourselves, regularly!
So today – today has been good. I had a fabulous training session and am contemplating increasing to three sessions a week. I think Mr WLB is going to ditch his training as he much prefers being out on his bike than being in a gym…so I might nab his session and train on a Monday, Wednesday and Friday with my trainer – who is ace! It would be hard work, but it will get results and make sure that I keep challenging my body. I then went to see the horses and had cuddles with my little pony who literally screamed in excitement – well, I hope it was excitement! – when he saw me opening the gate. Then I went to the shops and was quite overly excited to find some Quorn lamb grills in the chiller cabinet. And then I have had a coaching session this afternoon, and read some of Karl Pilkingtons book. Tonight I will watch some Dexter…I am hooked!
Today’s food looked like this…
Breakfast: Black Forest fruit with 0% Total Greek yogurt and Nakd bits (10 syns).
Lunch: Garlic, chilli and cumin mushrooms, onion, carrot and tenderstem broccoli with syn free wedges.
Dinner: Quorn lamb grills with cheesy leeks, cabbage, sweetcorn, edamame beans, broad beans, and green beans (2 x HEA).
Snacks: Banana and peanut butter toasties (2 x HEB and 4.5 syns).
Exercise: 5 minutes rowing machine warm-up followed my 65 minutes of PT.
Thank you for reading,
Weight Loss Bitch xxx
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