Resolutions – I have made so many of these in the past…and rarely stuck to them.
I am over and done with making them now – I am just going to do what feels right, when it feels right…and try and have no regrets!
One thing that I am constantly trying to focus on – and encourage my coaching clients to focus on – is learning to live life as it is now, to recognise the wonderful things that happen on a day to day basis, to appreciate what we have…
If you – yes, you! – could focus in this too then that would be fabulous!
I write quite a lot about positive psychology – things like Three Blessings and journaling and meditation and compassionate approaches and the 100 Happy Days project and Operation Beautiful – I like to try and share stuff that helps get your head in the right place…as we all have our preferred methods of shifting weight and exercising…but the head stuff rarely gets much attention. I am rambling now…but the head stuff is crucial.
Another ‘tool’ that I think can be pretty bloody marvellous is one that I wrote about earlier in the year – so I will re-share that blog post with you as it is a great time of year to get started. Here’s goes…
Memories – when I wrote the blog post I was reflecting upon a memory that made me incredibly proud of what I had been doing that day.
Which was actually staring at the clock in the gym at minute 109 of my 120 minute double personal training session. Mr WLB had not been well and decided that he didn’t want his PT session on that particular day, so I took one for the team so to speak and offered myself up for two hours of agony!
What I loved about it all though – in-between the GVT (German volume training) leg presses of 10 reps x 100kg x 10 sets (I am now pressing 200kg!) with only 10 seconds rest between sets…along with three other GVT movements – was the fact that all I could think was, “2 minutes versus 2 hours!” This was almost my mantra to get me through the workout.
When I first got my treadmill at home – way before joining the gym – and weighing in at over 37st, I could only manage 2 minutes of incredibly slow walking on the treadmill. I had to hold on to the handrails to support my weight and for balance, and had to sit and recover for a while after those 2 minutes. The memory of that was what kept me going during my mammoth training session.
The memory of those 2 minutes versus the 2 hours made me incredibly proud of what I had achieved…and what I will go on to achieve!
So memories then…I guess this blog is a fantastic way of capturing memories, as is the #100happydays project that I am part of on my Facebook page…there is always more that you can do though!
Perfect moments can fade to distant memories – those moments that feel perfect and amazing, those moments that we spend our days searching for, can often occur without any planning…such as the look on my nephews face when we went to see Peppa Pig at the theatre – it was priceless and perfect!
Quite often the things that make us smile aren’t accompanied by fanfares and fireworks. In fact, whenever I have expected something to be amazing it has generally been a bit of a disappointment…those fanfares and fireworks resembled a toddler playing a trumpet and a damp squib!
I guess there is a lesson in there somewhere for me…something about enjoying everyday life and stopping the expectations of fairy-tale endings and miracles. Actually, since committing to the #100happydays project – in which you take a photo of something that makes you smile each day, for 100 days – I have started to notice the joy in everyday life…which I appreciate sounds a little bit naff – for all of you swear-word haters…I replaced the word ‘wank’ with ‘naff’…see, I am learning!
But there is joy in everyday life – honestly – it’s not naff at all! One fantastic way of capturing this joy and – more importantly – reminding yourself of this joy, is to create a ‘memory’ or ‘moment’ jar. Memories can fade…so capturing the moment in order to remind yourself of it at a later date is a fantastic way of celebrating your life.
As the year goes on, this moment jar fills with little pieces of paper – the challenge is to collect your best moments on those little pieces of paper…and then empty the jar as and when you need to – in order to remind yourself how fantastic life is.
We all experience change in our lives. This past couple of years for me has seen significant change in not only my weight, but my mind, and my general approach to life. I wrote on Twitter earlier that the older I get – I am the grand old age of 33! – the more I realise that I can’t please everyone…so that I am going to stop fecking trying! I used to worry what people thought of me, and would try and please people…who doesn’t like to be liked? But my experiences have taught me that not everyone will like what I say or do, and this is okay…I don’t have to agree with them, and they don’t have to agree with me…but the one thing I have also realised is that the more that people try and change me, the more I rebel – so I have to be the change that I need.
Anyway, I digress…memory / moment jars…
Appreciation of what you have now is crucial. There is no magic wand waved when you hit your weight loss target…life will still be the same, you will just be smaller than you are now. So you have to enjoy life now in order to enjoy life then…as the same shite will still be there! I reckon the memory jar would be a great way of being able to appreciate the experiences that you have…and I think that I will dip into mine when I get ‘those’ kinds of feelings that might make me want to turn to food.
I have a jar in my cupboard…I got my niece and nephew to help me decorate it…which was my first ‘moment’!
My moments are unpredictable – I had no idea what might end up in my jar but there are some fabulous things in there that link to some of my ‘Happy Days’ pictures that I have taken. I have read accounts from other people who have created ‘moment jars’ and there have been holidays with a best friend, getting a new job, running half-marathons with a family member, being with a friend when they got news of a promotion, getting an unexpected compliment.
What I learnt from reading the accounts was the emotion involved – people talked about the fact that we often fail to reflect on our accomplishments and laugh at our wild nights come Monday morning. Sometimes, the past is better in the past, but other times, it needs to be appreciated. The thing that resonated with me the most was the fact that life’s greatest moments are about the people who share them with you.
Then there were some amusing and silly moments…like the first date movie ticket stub, and a note about randomly snogging people in clubs…these things count too!
I used to set little challenges on the blog for myself relating to weight loss. Now, I like setting challenges that increase positivity and enjoyment of life as it is. Join me in this challenge if you wish – find a jar and start collecting your moments. I have a feeling that we will appreciate our lives and the people in it a bit more than we do now…I might open my jar on New Years Eve 2015 – which seems popular…as I don’t really ‘do’ New Years Eve. Then again, I am quite impatient and will probably open it way before then…just like I used to with my advent calendar – I would eat the chocolates and close the doors!
And that’s it from me for the day.
I have downed my green tea matcha shot courtesy of teapigs – I can’t say that I am feeling particularly lively…but have a tummy upset so that’s probably why I not skipping around my lounge! Mr WLB is off at football practice and I was supposed to head to Pilates tonight but cannot rely on my stomach not to let rip and ruin the evening for my fellow Pilatinis! So I am off for an early night.
Thank you for reading,
Weight Loss Bitch xxx
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