Today surrounds exploring the issues that you currently face, and making a plan to deal with them.
The challenge here is to list any issues that fall under the headings below, and try and detail your plan for tackling them…
- Emotional – such as eating to solve a problem (loneliness, boredom, due to a stressful job…)
- Habits – such as always clearing your plate no matter how full you are, or always serving up big portions…mine is always saving the best until last on my plate, which means that I always clear my plate as I don’t want to leave the good stuff!
- Uninformed choices – such as misunderstanding the affect of foods on your body – sugar for example – or not understanding how many calories are in the foods you eat versus how much energy you use in a day.
- Deceit – tricking yourself…’it was only a snack’ or ‘it was just leftovers…they don’t count!’
- Taking a while to feel full
- Genetic disposition
- Physical conditions – do you eat more when you feel tired, or cold, or have drunk alcohol?
You might not have issues in some of the areas above. You might have lots of issues. This exercise is about raising your awareness…it’s not about becoming perfect and thinking that we can deal with or eliminate these issues; we want to have choices and not feel backed into a corner by our behaviour.
One of the problems that I have surrounds emotional eating. If only I could get rid of these emotions then life would be simpler – but I would probably be dead! The thing is, emotions are there to protect us – they are linked to our fight, flight, and freeze responses. They are designed to support our basic drives – security, parental instinct, troop, ego, territory, food, inquisitiveness, and power…without these drives and responses we quite simply wouldn’t survive. The thing is, we are not long in danger of being eaten by sabre-tooth tigers…but our brain doesn’t know that unless we program it to behave otherwise!
So emotions are essential.
We will never be able to get rid of the feelings that we have, but we can learn to manage them.
Get writing and thinking and reflecting.
As I said, it’s not about becoming perfect – it is about raising your awareness. I think one of the most frustrating positions to find yourself in is having done something but not understanding why you did it. If you understand why you behave the way that you do, then you have choices. You can train your brain – or your chimp – to makes better choices most of the time. Note – I said most of the time…there will be times when our irrational mind gets the better of us.
On the ‘why’…I know why I behave the way I do on a day to day basis. I never thought that I would understand the why of how I ended up so big…but it was likely an accumulation of poor choices based on these day to day behaviours I demonstrate. So if I can change the day to day, the longer term picture looks brighter…but won’t be solved overnight!
Remember my mantra – progress…not perfection!
On that note, I am going to love and leave you for the night.
I managed to get to weigh-in today and had gained 3lbs. So it’s not the end of the world – it was probably thanks to the pizza and hula-hoops that I ate over the weekend!
Thank you for reading,
Weight Loss Bitch xxx