So yesterday I warned you that there was a bit of a rant that I wanted to get off my chest.
A PR company contacted me to see if I wanted to take part in a TV show. They introduced themselves and went on to say, ‘…right now we’re working on a holiday show with a difference. We’re going to create a holiday especially for plus-size people in a plus size friendly resort, and follow a group of diverse bigger people having the holiday of a lifetime in a place where they won’t feel judged for their size. I wondered if you’d be interested in taking part? It’s not a weightloss show and there’s a summer holiday up for grabs. Let me know what you think…’
I didn’t know what to think. Well actually I was pleased to see that the person sending the email knew the difference between ‘their’ and ‘there’ and used it in the right context. But I can be a picky grammar nob head at times!
At first I was really pissed off. Why should they assume that fat people want to go on a special holiday? If I want to go on holiday, then I just fecking get a brochure and pick somewhere that I like the look of, and I book it. I wondered what kind of ‘plus size friendly resort’ they were going to find. Were they going to vet it to make sure that it didn’t have those shitty white plastic garden chairs around the edge of the pool…the ones I live in fear of collapsing. Or were they just going to ring a resort and warn them that a bunch of fatties were on their way, and to lock up the fat-shaming village idiot? Or have they found an island, a la Jurassic Park, that they want to drop a load of new inhabitants off on?!
Then I paused for a second. I remembered that I had requested fattie-friendly spas and beauticians the other evening. Whilst I want to feel as comfortable in my skin as old Bubbles de Vere of Little Britain infamy, I am not one to walk into a place of what I perceive to be ‘perfect’ women and get my very wobbly and very saggy baggy bits out for them to rub oils into! Although I do go swimming and try and channel my inner Beyoncé when I am walking around in my swimming get up!
So is this PR request any different from my request?
If I don’t feel comfortable enough to walk into a spa, then is it the same thing as them offering the comfort of a resort that caters to the larger form? Although I will say that one of my main worries surrounding the spa thing was the spindly little legs on some of the treatment tables…I don’t want those little legs to collapse whilst my bits are hanging off the edges and my modesty is covered by a bit of cotton towel!
My concern though is that this TV programme can’t be that simple. A holiday for me involves a lot of sunbathing if it’s in warmer climes, a lot of eating, and a lot of sleeping. If I go to Scotland it usually involves activities…which include eating and sleeping! There’s a theme, and I am not sure that this theme makes for good TV.
My worry is that it would be like an Ibiza Uncovered with a load of fatties…which opens up the doors for fat-shaming and derogatory comments.
So I got annoyed and typed a response. I then got rational and deleted that response.
I don’t know what to think really. Maybe they truly have good intentions. I do remember reading somewhere ages ago about a resort for large people that had massive sturdy beds and huge lovely wooden chairs on the beach…but it shut down because people didn’t go there. I wonder if those people felt like me…
I feel that you should just be able to go out and live the life that you want to lead. If you feel happy with a tiny triangle bikini on then you go for it, regardless of your size. If you want to cover up a bit more because you are more modest, then you go for it…again, regardless of your size.
There shouldn’t be a segregation of sizes. Personally, I quite like people watching and I want to watch a mixture of wobbly saggy bits and toned taut bits. I like the variety we have in the world. I like seeing people young and old having fun. I like seeing people skinny and fat having fun. I just like seeing people live…and I hate to think that there are people who don’t go away for fear of judgement.
Of course there are practical issues…will the big arse I have fit in a plane seat etc. But other than this, I reckon you should book a holiday wherever you bloody want to and go and bloody enjoy it!
So I won’t be taking them up on the offer.
Today has been fairly sedate – although my food cravings have been kicking in a bit. It’s weigh-in tomorrow though, so I am on my bestest behaviour!
Breakfast was my usual smoked salmon and scrambled eggs, lunch was leftover olive and feta salad with garlic sausages, and dinner was leftover soup with corn cakes:
Thank you for reading,
Weight Loss Bitch xxx