Today’s group was was rather entertaining…so I’m going to treat you all to a morning in the life of Weight Loss Bitch! Before I do though, I don’t want you thinking that I really am a bitch! I am a confirmed ‘people-watcher’ and have a keen interest in psychology and the behaviours that people demonstrate…so I tend to notice the little things that people say and do, which give clues as to how they may be feeling. In a past life I was a behavioural assessor and used to coach managers regarding their behaviour, in order for them to build better relationships with their staff, or to help them with their own development. So this has been a away of life for me and I just can’t help it. However I am not one of those bitchy characters who sits there and says “ooh, look at her” etc…it’s not my style, and having been on the receiving end of this, I would never do it. But some things people say and do are just too good not to share! 😉
Following a rather icy visit to the stables, and the quick obligatory trip to Asda, we arrived at group. We also discovered a number of people stuck in the snow, so my other half helped my consultants husband get them out safely…whilst I hovered near the window to make sure none of them hit my Freddie Freelander! Once all of the excitement was over, I got on the scales and got this:
Yes, my 9st award – whoop whoop! I was very happy to have received it, with a 3.5lbs loss, however I am still very greedy and wanted to lose a little bit more! 😉 I know, I know…it’s a good loss and I really am happy with it!
I then settled down, in my usual chair – am I the only one who does this?! Most of my group sits in the same spaces each week! – and watched the comings and goings. One particularly ‘vocal’ lady – more about her later – did not seem at all happy that her mum had lost 3lbs despite eating some food off plan…fair play to her I thought! She really voiced her opinion at the scales and was frankly quite rude to her poor mum, and to add further fuel to her already ‘gobby’ fire, she lost less than her mum had…bring on the sour face!
One lady had put some weight on in last week, which had been her first week on plan. She had put this down to starting at the gym, and this week lost 4lbs, so she was 0.5lbs up. Talking to her, she told me that she didn’t use her HEB, so I asked what she ate and she mentioned porridge. “That’s a HEB” I told her, “Oh, I didn’t know that!” was her response. READ YOUR BLOODY BOOK, was what I felt like saying, but I reined the bitch in me in and tried talking to her more about the kind of things she was having. When we got onto the subject of chips, or syn free chips, she said she doesn’t have many so instead just has a handful of oven chips. What do you think oven chips are covered in to help them cook that lovely golden brown colour…oil!! 100g of Southern Fries is 7 syns, and 100g is not a lot of chips! Add this to the porridge, unweighed as she thought it was syn free, and it was likely she was having well in excess of her syns each day…yet still felt disheartened. I don’t understand why Slimming World go to the effort of printing these great books, with loads of information in them, if nobody bloody bothers to read them, yet certainly do bother their arses to complain if they don’t lose weight! Argh, drives me mental!
Another, frankly lovely, lady had joined last week and lost 3lbs. Which is fabulous right?! Especially as she already has the kind of figure that I would kill to have, and if she lost 3lbs a week, I think she’d be at target by the end of the month. I’ve said it before, but I’ll say it again though…it doesn’t matter how much weight you have to lose – 7lbs or 20st – your journey is as important as everyone else’s! Anyway, she mentioned having had a brilliant week up until last night, when she suddenly developed cravings for pizza and chips. Well aware of syn free chips, as she’d made them during the week, I mentioned the Warburton’s sandwich thins which she was really interested in. I also gave her the recipe for Smash pizza. She also likes pasta, so we talked about pasta quiche, and she went away saying she was going to find me on our class FB page and get the proper recipes! The important point to make here is that she was disappointed at losing 3lbs because she had weighed herself on her own scales yesterday and they indicated that she had lost 4lbs! BIN THE SCALES! The only scales you need are the ones in the kitchen to measure your healthy extras!
I’m going to do it…yes, I’m going to talk about the loud, and bloody rude, lady in class. I’m sure we’ve all know one – you might even be married to one! 😉 – and I’m sure that there’s one in every Slimming World…that gobby woman who always has an opinion, but talks no sense at all! (I’m sincerely hoping that my other half isn’t reading this and nodding, knowingly – haha!). Anyway, after the debacle at the scales…which the weigh in ladies didn’t quite know how to deal with, but the consultant dealt with it by shuffling them off to their seats…I sat and listened to this lady moaning, constantly, until the group talk started. It was clear that she was another one who hadn’t read her book as, during the talk, she kept moaning about not knowing that, or that, or that…you get the point! When it came to her mum’s turn to talk, the poor woman couldn’t get a word in edgeways as her daughter just sat there telling everybody about each and every thing her mum had eaten. We gave her mum a cake recipe, as cake is her weakness, whilst her daughter just sat there looking like a cat had done a turd on her favourite rug! She then proceeded to say “I’ll beat her, I’ll bloody beat her next week. I’m not having HER beat me!” She was that vicious about it I did actually wonder if she meant she was going to beat her with a stick! Her behaviour was so far past the point of jesty, family banter, it was untrue. She also complained that she’d eaten like a rabbit all week – no bread, no butter, no oil, no crisps, none of her favourite drinks from McDonalds. When told she couldn’t keep going like that, she said “I can! I can do it for 6 months and be at target for my 50th and then relax!” Upon telling her that she would put her weight back on at that point if she went back to her old habits, having deprived herself – for no good reason, as you can enjoy treats on Slimming World – I got the same treatment as her mother had. Believe me, it took all of my Weight Loss Bitch restraint not to drag her out there by the scruff of her neck…and I very nearly said “enjoy being thin on your 50th then, because you’ll be fat by the time you get to your 60th with that kind of attitude!” I didn’t though…I think my other half would have wanted the ground to open up and swallow him! 😉
‘Free Food’ can be a very contentious issue during group discussions. Slimming World promotes the use of free food and expects the bulk of your diet to made up of ‘Super Free’ and ‘Free’ predominantly. I am sure that I’ve mentioned this before, but one lady was annoyed she hadn’t lost weight one week, yet it transpired that she was eating five Muller Lights a day along with at least ten pieces of fruit…all ‘Free’ or so she thought! Did you know that foods with a 0 syn allowance are not classed as free foods, and should be placed in the ‘syn’ section on your food diary? Only foods that appear in the book listed under ‘Free’ or ‘Super Free’ are truly free and unlimited. This is because those foods are energy dense and low calories…so they fill you up without bulking you up! I only learnt this recently, but do understand the logic behind it, as if you fill up on 0 syn foods, you’re likely be loading up on foods that don’t have the same nutritional benefits, or filling power. All food contains calories, and eating too much of something just because it’s ‘free’ will mean you are still consuming calories which will slow your weight loss down. The question to ask yourself is “would a ‘normal’ person eat this much?” Slimming World is perfect for those with big appetites, but the trick is to use the plan to normalise your eating – you start as a person with a huge appetite that eats junk, start Slimming World and (try) to become a person with a huge appetite that eats the right food, and finally you need to work on becoming a person with a ‘normal’ appetite that eats the right things!
Still on the subject of free foods, there used to be a recipe floating around for a lemon cous cous cake. It was delicious and I remember my mum and I making one…we’d doubled up on the recipe and it was huge – we had Tupperware boxes full of the bloody stuff! We ate loads of it! I asked what happened to the recipe in group today and was told that she doesn’t recommend it anymore, because too many people were eating a whole cake of it each day, rather than a slice, and then wondering why they weren’t losing weight, despite having eaten cous cous which is ‘free’! Given how much of the stuff my mum and I put away in a week, and that 300g of cooked cous cous is over 330 calories – and 300g isn’t a huge amount! – I can fully understand why people weren’t losing weigh! The Muller Light I’m having later is 88 calories, so the lady eating five a day was having 440 calories whilst thinking that she was being saintly by eating free food. I surprised myself a couple of weeks ago when I sat and worked out the calories in my ‘free’ food pasta quiche. It is made with a packet of Pasta’n’ Sauce, three eggs, small pot of cottage cheese and whatever veggies you want to add – I usually use mushrooms and onions, and then serve it with salad. On this occasion I also added a pot of LowLow cheese as my two HEA choices on a Green day. Have a guess at how many calories are in it…bearing in mind it is ‘free’. Excluding the veggies it was 1169 calories! I used to snack on this if it was in the fridge, and could easily get through one in a day! I also remember sitting down each night with a big tray loaded with the ‘free’ food I had planned to eat but not managed. Some nights it would have a Muller Light, four pieces of fruit, cous cous cake, and three packets of French Fries as my syns…and this was after eating a substantial meal. Did I need it? Never in a million years, but as it was ‘free’ and on my ‘diet’ then I thought I some how deserved it and needed to fit it in! That bloody mentality got me to the state I am in today!
The final funny of the day was really something that we all do, and I have probably done it daily recently. And the reason we do it? To make people feel better. What am I talking about? I’ll explain, and see how many of you have done this. One lady, who is really lovely, had put on 3.5lbs this week. She explained that she had not been able to resist the shortbread over the weekend, and that it had all gone to pot. It happens to us all, right? What response would help you best in this situation? To be told “oh well, as long as you enjoyed it, just worry about it next week” or “okay, what made you eat it, and what can we do to help you avoid it next time”? I know which I’d prefer! This situation is very different to a planned night out, or a planned romantic meal in; this is just picking at the crap sitting in the house and not having a contingency plan! It might sound harsh, but I am the first admit that I have done this many, many times…and it’s why I am the size I am! We all slip up, and a few biscuits does not ruin your week, but a slip up that goes unchecked could end up being followed by a McDonalds breakfast the next morning, a pub meal and a Chinese that night! It is okay to slip up…but it is not okay to slip up and then lie face down in crappy food, inhaling it as if it is going to be the last time you see it again! Don’t think about whether you enjoyed it or not, because you probably didn’t…you liked the taste, but were then filled with guilt and feelings of failure, which sent you running back to the crap! And don’t ask someone else if they enjoyed it…you know they didn’t as they are trying to lose weight and get healthy and, despite the wonderful taste of shortbread, I doubt we would put it on a list of healthy foods! Accept that you ate some crap, and move on quickly!
The morals of Weight Loss Bitch’s morning are…
1. Read, or re-read your books.
They have changed recently and some of the healthy extras have changed, both in the sense that what were healthy extras are no longer allowed, and that some of the amounts you are allowed have changed. Know, and understand, whatever diet it is that you are following and if you’re unsure – ask!
2. Bin the scales.
Do yourself a huge favour and save yourself the heartache, tears and tantrums that come when you weigh yourself more than once a week. If you go to a class, or get weighed at the gym, bin the scales and just get weighed at the same time each week. If you are trying to lose weight without group support, then pick a time each week and stick to it…store the scales somewhere out of sight – preferably somewhere difficult, so that it takes effort to get them out! – and just weigh once a week!
3. Don’t be horrible! 😉
Someone is always going to come along and lose a big number on the scales, and then tell you that they don’t know why, as they had a ‘massive’ weekend full of booze and junk food. Just breathe, smile and nod knowingly…and pray silently that it bites them in the arse soon! 😉 And if you do have a gain, please don’t take it out on your poor other half’s like I have. When we are upset and unhappy with ourselves, we tend to take it out on those closest to us (including ourselves…punishment with food anyone?!) but just keep calm and carry on!
4. Free food.
It still has calories – deal with it! No food is truly unlimited…but a bag of carrot batons is far better than guzzling down five yogurts! Enjoy the power of Slimming World and the healthy food options it offers…if you are hungry, then eat! Just don’t eat for the sake of it, and every now and again ask yourself if ‘normal’ people eat in the quantities you do.
5. Accept the slip up!
Face up to it, deal with it, bin the crap, and move on! Do not let one day ruin the rest of your week. One slip up won’t do you much, if any, harm…but a few days of slip ups will move you further away from your goal. Don’t brush off other people’s slip ups in an effort to make them feel better either. It may seem harsh, but it will help them in the long run. You don’t need to wail and moan at them, just don’t give them your approval ‘as long as they enjoyed it’. But please do enjoy your planned nights out with relish…you work hard for them, so enjoy them! 😉
I am not getting preachy…honestly! I just don’t like to see people struggle to meet their goals, working so bloody hard in the belief that they are doing the right things, only to find that they aren’t getting the results they deserve! The above stuff is just based on my observations, ramblings, and years of making the same mistakes – time and time again!
Breakfast: Mint HiFi bar and a banana.
Lunch: Two Quorn lamb steak and salad sandwiches – with a sneaky bit of tomato relish!
Dinner: Syn free chips with last nights chilli and Leerdaamer light slices.
Snacks: Crisps, glorious crisps! And a Muller Light…not so glorious, but still yummy!
I know that the above food does not a good Weight Loss Bitch make…however I must point out that breakfast was on plan, lunch was also kind of on plan (6 syns for extra bread, no idea for relish!) and was a far cry from the DriveThru meals I used to have as lunch after class! Dinner was also on plan and syn free, using the cheese as my HEAs. The crisps…well, what can I say about the crisps? You all know by now that crisps are my nemesis and yes, I could have had the 0.5 syns poppadoms I preach about, but I like my treat day and have already given away three packets of Squares to my other half…saving 15 syns…and am unlikely – although there’s always a possibility…going to eat that many packets of Frazzles! So go easy on me…I’ve tried to keep my normal meals syn free where possible, and am enjoy my crisps as ‘naughties’…but this is so far away from the binge days I used to have that I am in fact very proud of myself!
Exercise: Nothing today…it’s my planned day of rest and I’m enjoying it – even though my back is still a little dicey…but back on the Body Magic wagon tomorrow!
I really do mean it when I say that I love writing this blog! A number of people have been in touch to tell me that it has inspired them, but I want to let you know that it inspires me to know that people read it. As much as I wish and hope that me being open and honest helps at least one other person to take a step towards making a positive change, writing this is also helping me hugely. I have noticed, since writing stuff down, that my behaviour is changing…I mean who’d have thought that Weight Loss Bitch, a confirmed takeaway eater, would actually plan a syn free meal on ‘cheat’ day? My other half was amazed…and I am too! I feel really positive and the support from each and every one of you means a great deal, so ‘THANK YOU!’
On that soppy note, I’ll leave you with my little quote for the day…
Why must you eat that junk food in your cupboards – don’t buy it – you don’t need! Get rid of it – either way it will be wasted…in your bin, or in your mouth! It won’t make your bin fat, but it will make you fat, and unhappy, and lethargic! Just say ‘no’!
Once again, thank you my lovelies!
Weight Loss Bitch xxx
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