I have a little song playing on loop in my head at the moment…it’s quite irritating actually as I am sure it’s from a fucking Tampax advert!
Something about, ‘It’s my life..’ – and then I can’t get images of women on roller-skates out of my mind…because of course all us girls want to do when we have our period is roller-skate! Anyway…
The reason that the song is playing on loop in my warped little mind is because I am starting to rebel against advice. Advice that is given with the best of intentions.
Now this blog post is likely to make some people quite indignant and huffy. To be honest, I am not bothered if it does. I guess that I should explain first though before you think that I am an ignorant madam…
You have all heard the standard line about moving more and eating less. Us fatties know that this is the shit that works but it doesn’t help, as we want our miracle to be answered with something far more sexy and appealing than that! 🙂
Alex wrote last night about the need to ‘get real’ and to decide on what you are willing to trade for the health and the body that you want:
WHAT ARE YOU WILLING TO TRADE OFF?
It’s a trade off. You can’t have the great body and be in control of your health if you want to drink alcohol heavily at the weekend and eat whatever is convenient. There is a happy medium but that’s reflected in the weight you find yourself at. You won’t achieve the beach body unless you live like someone who has a beach body (unless you are genetically gifted and a lucky bastard).
So what do you want? Fuck the conflict, make a decision. Once you’ve decided your goal and path then etch it in stone, make it official. Have intention, and real intention is so powerful that nothing or no one will get in your way.
No matter how much of a difference you wish to make you must change something in order to produce a different outcome.
I guess his words struck a chord with me as I am willing to trade a fair bit at this point in time in order to get the results that I want. I know that there is no miracle out there for me…I have to work fucking hard and make some big changes. Moving more and eating less – creating a deficit so that my fat gets used up! 🙂
I am willing to use my ‘syns’ on foods like avocado, nuts, and full fat yogurt.
I am willing to ditch bread, and rice, and pasta.
I am willing to stick to three meals a day and not snack between them.
I am willing to record my food intake.
I am willing to weigh and measure everything I eat.
I am willing to drink 4 litres of water a day.
I am willing to give up my junk food.
I am willing to cook from scratch.
I am willing to do all of this as it is working for me and I am really bloody happy right now. I have some excellent people in my corner – Alex, my dietitian, my Slimming World consultant, my family, my friends, my endocrinologist…the list of ‘experts’ and ‘cheerleaders’ is pretty big! These people know me well and know what works for me – they see me on a regular basis, they hear my frustrations, they understand my capabilities.
When I get messages giving me advice, I really do appreciate the thought. I know that people genuinely want to help and that means a hell of a lot to me – to have a bunch of people willing me along is excellent. However the advice can get overwhelming at times – very overwhelming. I get sent links to articles that basically tell me everything I am doing is wrong. I get advised that I am not eating enough. I get told that I should snack between meals. I get told that I should have four, five, or even six meals a day. I get told that I should be careful of the fat content of what I am eating. I get warnings about the dangers of eating too many nuts.
I think you get the picture! 🙂
Like I said, I really do appreciate that people want me to do well and understand that by sharing their advice they feel that it somehow helps. And when I ask for advice – as I sometimes do – it really does help and I genuinely take it on board. But the unsolicited stuff can get quite confusing. I start to question whether what I am doing is right…we have all been there – you see an article about a certain type of food and perhaps question whether or not you should be eating it!
So I wanted to say that everything I am doing right now is working – for me.
For you, it might not work.
You and I could eat the same foods in a week and you might lose weight and I might gain weight. Our bodies respond differently and that’s okay – as long as you find a way forward that works for you!
I want to reassure you that the weighing and measuring and tracking that I do means I know full well that I am eating enough for my needs.
I don’t snack between meals as I have binge-eating issues and part of my recovery is to regulate and ‘normalise’ my eating which means three meals a day works for my needs.
As for splitting my meals up…I struggle to find time in the day to eat my lunch, let alone to eat three fecking meals whilst I am working – this isn’t practical for me and my needs.
When it comes to the fat content of my food, I am following a dietitian approved Low Carb High Fat plan that fits within the parameters of the Slimming World plan – I have worked with my dietitian closely for a number of years and the fat content is all good for me.
As for the dangers of eating nuts, the only worry I have ever experienced with nuts relate to the ones attached to a man…but let’s not even begin to discuss the ‘eating’ of those! 😉
For me and my needs…I have used that term a fair bit there – and it’s right. Because the people around me know me and my needs well. And if I don’t think they do, then I will bloody well tell them.
You need to find what works for you and your needs.
I didn’t start writing this blog to preach to people. I have no desire to convert people to eat Low Carb High Fat diets, or to follow Slimming World, or to become vegans, or to ditch junk food. My only intention was to get my feelings out there and to try and use it as a way of processing these.
You do whatever works for you. And I will do whatever works for me. There is bound to come a point when I do struggle (again…and again!) and when I do question what I am doing – but at the moment I am all good…and I am happy to share my shit with you along the way! 🙂
I guess that I am choosing to be disciplined and take the approach with myself that I would with a project at work…if I want to be successful then I have to work hard and make the choices now that will get me where I want to be in the future.
I’m now off to put my roller-skates on and sing an old 90’s tune! 😉
Before I go, I’ll cover off todays food:
Breakfast – mushroom, red onion, tenderstem broccoli, spinach, and Edam omelette.
Lunch – steak with olives, baby plum tomatoes, and avocado.
Dinner – ‘pizza’ topped chicken, pepper, and watercress.
Thank you – as always – for reading my ramblings and for understanding that sometimes you need to work through your own shit without advice! 🙂